Finding the sweet spot in life rests on the foundation of a sound relationship with aloneness. Being ‘Alone’ really means being present with yourself undistracted. It’s taking the time to digest and reflect on life, and having a space to be completely honest with yourself. The laboratory where the most important research and development occurs is here inside us. Taking a step back, alignment between head, heart and hands can be found in the wisdom of the innermost being.In the busyness of daily living, sometimes we can find ourselves so disconnected from this part of ourselves that the prospect of being alone becomes extremely daunting and brings up overwhelming feelings of anxiety. We might even find ourselves trying to avoid it at all costs.As a grown woman in her forties, I found that I had to get very intentional to bridge the gap in my relationship with Myself. It took a dedicated practice of Self love to integrate the feelings of shame, failure and ‘what I should have achieved by now’. Being driven by the belief that ‘something is wrong with me’ is energetically very different from holding the possibility of the future with an acceptance of the now. The first is stressful, overwhelming and exhausting, while the second is joyful, energising and fulfilling. The difference is stark, and the courage required to make it is immense, but the end result is very worthwhile.
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